The Bully. The word ‘Bully’ (Boele) was originally used in 1530, it was a Dutch word that meant sweetheart! (Oxford Dictionaries.)
Who is a Bully and why?
A bully is an aggressor who shows that aggression repeatedly, either physically, verbally, electronically or socially. They bully when they perceive there to be a power imbalance and they have the upper hand. Often a bully has previously bullied themselves and uses bullying as a way to distract previous bullies, who now view them as ‘strong.’
Bullies need to dominate and are often impulsive and aggressive. Up to 1/3 come from dysfunctional families (Rigby 1993)
Why do they do it?
i. As mentioned above – sometimes to escape their tormentors. ii. For ‘fun.’ iii. To get even. iv. To show how tough they are. v. To just annoy others. vi. To get money or things
The bully doesn’t’ generally like to fight, they like to DOMINATE.
The bully is only as strong as the victim allows him to be.